Woah. We made it a whole year in Pittsburgh through single digit temperatures, car losing control on icy hills, being in a house with a basement and attic, the porch collecting what every season had to offer, and witnessing a rat run from under my stove in broad daylight. With that said, Happy Pittsburgh-aversary to me and the family! We survived our first year moving out of state.
When we first came to PA, it was too cold to unload our U-Haul right away, and not many stores were open for Christmas to buy groceries. So, we found an IHop close by, (well, close enough). What better way to celebrate with the family than to go back to where it all began for us, IHop!
Rough Patches After A Big Move
I wont lie though, I was sad quite a bit my first year! I’m not sure if it’s because I was inside the house mostly, or maybe because I haven’t established any close friendships in the area. It could even be because my family and girlfriends are 1, 069 minutes away by car. Whatever the reason, I cried, separated myself a few times from the kids and husband, and prayed. But I made it guys, we made it! Moving out of state was a big step for our family and now I know what actual seasons are. Thanks for spoiling me with the sunshine, Florida.
Being a stay at home mom definitely has it’s ups and downs. Especially being new to the area, better yet the whole state! Not to worry. I am enjoying every minute of this journey, and my 101 grow with me experience with my boys. Tears and all, I think I had a pretty enjoyable year.
Surviving an out of state move can be challenging, or any big move. With the right tools and mind set, making it through the first year can be a great experience. These little activities played a big role in providing comfort and company. I was even able to build a stronger emotional bond with my boys (husband included).
Daddy and Mommy Time: Movie night! Just mommy and daddy! No kids allowed! Every Saturday after we put the boys to bed, we hop on Netflix or rent a movie off YouTube. To foster our relationship, we try to spend alone time together and reconnect. No topics of bills, work, kids, or the trash hubby forgot to take out that’s been sitting in kitchen for two days. Nope. Simply, just us.
Family Friday All 4 one: As in all 4 bodies in one bed. I’m sure if Seth could rename every day of the week, he’d just call them all Fridays! For the simple fact that Friday nights we all crawl into the king size bed at bedtime. Let me just say… it’s only king size when there’s no one on it. It seems so small with four people all over it, no breathing room night. And Seth’s legs are like body magnets. And my love language is not touch, at all. But it is a sacrifice I’m willing to choose.
Push My Own Shopping Cart: I know this one sounds silly. My mom was not her physical best over the summer when I went to visit. She was pretty much house bound. Couldn’t drive. Had trouble with one of her arms. She was laying on the sofa one day and was like, “I just want to push my own shopping cart”. I never thought something so minuscule to many could hold so much value to someone.
So, every time I go to the store, I grab my wobbly wheel cart and drive it through every isle! I push it to enjoy the small things in life and to enjoy what I’m capable of in the moment. But most importantly, I push it so that I won’t have to carry all the produce and groceries in my hand ands. It’s a win win!
Date Nights: Sounds cute right? Not with the hubby though. Throughout the last few months a “friend” (we only talk on Saturdays at church but I’m going to name her friend) invited me out so that we can get to know each other. Let me just say, that was my first time out without my boys and hubby in 7 years! It felt great! Ask me anything about what happen the first date and I can’t tell you a thing (I hope I don’t get dementia at a young age)! But I can describe every feeling I felt. We’ve had a couple dates so far and I’m hoping they continue into 2020.
Sunday Family Funday: This one is my fave. I love any moment when we’re all doing something together as a family. No phones, no TVs or electronics. My husband and I give more than half the day of undivided (or something like that) attention and interact with our boys. On snowy days, we take anything that looks good enough to handle our weight as we attempt to slide down the snowy hill in the yard.
During the warmer months we would take trips to the park and climb down hills, collect rocks and skip them. We Take trips to the Pittsburgh children’s museum; it’s filled with so many hands-on activities we never have enough time for them all. And they change the activity room themes throughout the year. But for Sundays that are spent indoors, we just go with the flow of what the boys want to play, build, create, and destroy.
Girls Night: We all need a little time away from the kids and our partners, come on! The goal was to have a girls night once a month, hosted by a different person each month. The girls at church wanted to start a little girls group so that we can learn about one another and spend time to unwind from the real world. We had two when I first arrived in Pittsburgh but it kind of died after that. But, but, but, we have one scheduled this coming weekend to restart the year. So hopefully this girls night wont need any CPR as the months run on.
Long story short, I don’t make New Years resolutions, but kudos for the champs that do. This year I want to continue what has been working for me and my family. I also want to venture out and explore a little bit more of Pittsburgh and hopefully meet a close friend along the way.
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